"Dont Sweat The Small Stuff" Week 1

For the past couple weeks I have been thinking to myself that I need to write a new post. However, telling myself to write a new post is a lot easier said than done. I had no idea what to write about. Do I write about my continuous happiness in Hawaii? Or my interesting scenarios that I've approached while back in Minnesota? Both I could do, but neither were what I wanted to write about. Then I discovered what I wanted to do.

While in Hawaii my sister began reading one of the books off of our classy (ply wood and cinder block made) bookshelves called "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson. Together we read the 100 points/passages of things that you shouldn't "sweat". So crowd.. this is my mini version of the book/lessons of my own on how not to sweat the small things in life. For the next couple weeks I will continuously post new lessons so keep an eye out!

1. Make Peace With Imperfection
I remember growing up as a little girl being told that I was a princess, or that I was pretty or beautiful. This idea then translated over to middle school and high school.. the idea that beauty is only held on the outside. Well FYI readers.. it's not. Beauty is held both inside and out. It is held in your imperfections, and your personal qualities. For example: In Minnesota I would be considered extremely short and out of the norm compared to the towering giants of the Midwest, but in Hawaii I blend in well and (no offense to my taller roommate but she knows) being taller is sometimes looked at as "strange". It also goes along with the idea that being big (besides for health reasons) is disgusting or ugly. In the Hawaiian culture, being a larger man or woman is looked upon as a beauty; something they stride for. Here's a piece of advice. Go find a full length mirror and instead of grabbing your love handles or wiggling the "fat flag" under your arm find something that you love and compliment yourself. Mine might be: Wow Jenna you have great legs or beautiful freckles.
Whatever it is for your, find it, love it, and appreciate it because it's what makes you...well YOU. And YOU are beautiful.. no matter what anyone else says.

2. Let Go of the Idea that Gentle, Relaxed People Can't Be Superachievers
Many of my readers know me on a personal level and for those of you who don't you still know some of my outstanding traits that I hold. One of them, well at least before I moved, was being organized, a bit on the OCD side and well uptight if I must say it. Good thing I moved to the most relaxed state in the U.S. of A. I mean truly~ there's a reason for the term "Hawaiian Time". Living in this great state has made me realize that not everything has to be scheduled and run smoothly. Life is the funnest when there are bumps and no schedule to adhere to. I am one of the few lucky "overachievers" who was able to pull herself out of her comfort OCD zone and be thrown into an opposite atmosphere. By stepping out of this zone and stepping into a relaxed state and more gentle rather than uptight, I have discovered that even though I'm not as organized and staying on a strict schedule, I still have accomplished a lot, and MIGHT..MIGHT.. consider myself still a SUPERACHIEVER! Even though the things I have achieved may not end up in the newspaper or get me a pat on the back, they are personal achievements. Which in all reality are the best achievements... Right?
Sit down and think of one achievement you're proud of that didn't stress you out to reach. An achievement you are proud of that didn't take your whole day, week, life to accomplish.


3. Develop Your Compassion
We've all met this individual: Man in a gorgeous $2500 Valentino suit, with his Rolex watch, drives by in his Lexus IS 300 and you automatically think "Man that guy has a perfect life." However, when you follow that man home you see that he enters a darkly lit house, turns on the lights, and grabs himself a Jack on the rocks.. and sits alone. If you asked him how he liked his high earning job he would state that he hates it, and then would proceed to tell you in his drunken state that he once had dreams and aspirations to be a chef in a Pizzeria in New Jersey somewhere, and to have a huge Italian family. You look at this sad, pathetic, lonely man and wonder what happened. Yes, he may be able to buy whatever he wants, and has success to show for his hard working, but does he have a family or kids or that Pizzeria in New Jersey. Nope. You want to know what happened? He lost his compassion for those things to dollar signs. We see this happen everyday, and yet no one really tries to stop this viscous cycle. What happened to living life based off your compassions and feelings? What happened to following the love of your life because you don't want to know what life would be without her instead of staying because it's the "right" thing to do career-wise? What happened to trying and possibly failing to start up a restaurant because it's just what you want to do?
Do yourself a favor. Think of one thing that your compassionate about and make a pact to yourself that you will never let that compassion go (unless needed obviously).



I know some of my audience members that read my blog, and I love you very much, but along with myself,need to try to abide by the points stated above. If I've learned anything from moving to Hawaii it's that life is short and that it's better to be optimistic and happy rather than pessimistic and upset. Let go of the petty things in life and enjoy what the world has to offer.  (And believe me there is much to be offered)

Aloha Friends and Family,
Jenna